A BLOG BY

ADHY NUGROHO


It's hard for me to tell this thought in English because of the case that has particular culture background which is Indonesian. It maybe hard for the readers to understand without having this background of knowledge. But let me try to tell you.

Let us begin with the fact that the trend of young-marriage here is pushed by the belief that having relationship before marriage is a haram, forbidden, or illegitimate thing. While it is stated by the Quran or Hadith. Till here, you know that I write about marriage in Islam. I have no problem with early-age marriage. I just worried that this will make a couple feels better or nobly higher than the other just because they are a halal couple.

I will not to try to generalizing, but I see some halal couples - by looking at their style, I know that they are a halal couple, even I will say "probably" too. If they are not a halal couple, it will be so messy - do things that non-halal couples do too. Such as, in public area, they're coupled walking side by side, arm and arm, and hand and hand. Or they're coupled having lunch in a food stalls and romantically talk. Can you imagine that?

And then what? I mean, they do what the other non-halal couples do too. So what's the difference? Just not doing sin as they believe. Whereas the society will still see that they're "making out" in public area. I wondered that, perhaps they will show others that their relationship is nobly higher than others'. Ultimately, indirectly, they agree that "making out" publicly is okay in case you're a halal couple and God bless you.

Besides the fact that I’m ugly and no one wants me to be hers, I’m not even trying to get a girl to be my girlfriend. Thing that I’m afraid of is that there is a girl or maybe more than one that fall in love with me. This is something that I can’t easily tell you why, but it has been about five years for me to make impression that I’m not that kind of man you should fall in love with. Well, I use the phrase “fall in love” for the meaning of “She wants me for hers”.

This become something hard to tell because I have such a poor library of vocabularies on my mind, even I wonder that there is no word that could define what’s happened to me.

First, I think I don’t need sex yet. For me, sex is such a boring thing if we know that it’s actually being done for reproduction purpose. If we talk about recreational purposes of sex, well, I’m tired of having interaction and conversation with the girl; it always has chance to get rejection. It’s not including the possibility that I may impregnate her and I have to be a responsible man, or if we're caught by people. It’s too hard for me. Btw, about recreational purposes of sex, I can get the pleasure by myself.

Then, I hate possession. I could be fallen with someone without wanting her to be mine. If I’m in a condition that states I am hers and she is mine, I never have another chance to fall in another girl. Or the universe will say that I’m cheating on her. Possession is just like a barrier for me to feel the beauty of the world. If you say that I’m an anti-commitment is because I don’t know for what commitment is.

Sometimes, I just imagine that I can love a girl then I tell her that I love the other girl, and she loves me and doing the same thing as me, and no problem. We could love each other, sharing, and taking care each other without any differences of the rights because of possession.

Ultimately, if I’m in a relationship, I will have more chance to see girl’s tears. I don’t like to see girl who is crying.

I don't believe that niqab is kind of oppression. I see lots of Moslem wear hot pants too. Niqab is a decision. And because of that, I don't agree in niqab banning. Couple of weeks ago I read a news about niqab banning in Belgium. And recently about Telegram banning in my country. That's why I decided to write my thought about that.

We don't accept in terrorism, stealing, or the other criminal acts. We fight against them, right? There are no guarantees that niqab-man will do that kind of criminal acts. In my country, terrorist wears a t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers. We fight the crime, not the fashion. We can't ban Nike shoes because they're so comfortable, so when the robber wears it, he could run fast and comfortably when the police chase him. That's not funny. Or when Telegram is banned because it has a safe encryption so terrorists use it to communicate. Well, that's so unfair. 

How about wears niqab in public? Well, people also wear sunglasses, hoodie, or medical-masker too. Do people care? Do people starring other people face? No. And when we are talking do we care about the face? No. We care about the message, the information. Except when I talk to a pretty girl, I will care about the face.

Again, we fight the crime. Don't let our doing irritate the other people right and other people freedom. Niqab is part of freedom of decision. Everybody has right to wear whatever she wants to wear. When we're talking about freedom, I think that everybody could do anything he wants, and be everything he wants. We know that there are kinds of woman that want to be bounded and get physically rough treated while having sex. Then why we feel so weird when we see that there is a woman wears all black cloth covered all her body?

By banning niqab, it can't decrease the criminal numbers. The thieves are still trying to cover their face, avoiding the cctv, and doing their act covertly.


One day, I shared a pic of my room in my Instagram Stories. It shows my unfinished mural in two sides of my room. It shows a bomb flare trough the window and the other side shows a triangle pattern with the old Instagram interface with 3 blue-red-yellow-cats on its 3 posts. Something you have to know because it's so important, that I captured it while I laid on my bed. Then, one of my friends replied. In a simple way,  she said that it's good. And she wants it in her room. And.. No other information to give. 

Well, I just got something inside my mind that I had been being that colorful before now, I just think of (just) black. 

The story about how I love pop art is begun when someday I opened my Chrome and found it in the doodle celebrating Audrey Hepburn's birthday. I was stalking and found it she's so beautiful. I love her. Then I downloaded lots of her pics, watched her movies: I do love emm..  Roman Holiday, Sabrina, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Funny Face, and.. Emm.. Paris when it Sizzles. Finally, I fall in love with Pop Art. 

Errr.. But I don't think so. Wait. I think it's begun when I started to listen to The Beatles and Elvis. When I began to love Rock N' Roll, Rockabilly, and silk pomaded hair. I imagined how beautiful is life in that decade. And because of that, I was starting to love Pop Art. 

I'm not sure how's the beginning, but I'm sure that I was interested in Pop Art since I was a child. Maybe when I was about 8 I watched TV and found something on the wall a digital painting that's so colorful. Then I know it's called WPAP. At that time I was amazed and just keep it on my mind "Oh that kind of Arts" And I think I was on my top of love when I was in High School. I made some Pop Arts.

Raditya Dika

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I don't know exactly. And I think it's not so important to know how's the beginning I met the Pop Art. I just love it. Not because it's cool and mainstream. But because it's simple, emotive, close to the reality, and retro. Even though Pop Art not always has relation with something retro, ya, Pop Art today is the popular art of today, not 50's/60's.

I love Warhol's Monroe, the Campbells that's so iconic, and the Kapow!
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